"Half of an apple,
half of it is you. And the other half is me..."
These were
the lyrics running through Elif's mind...
She was
thinking about their meaning.
It was
talking about two halves making a whole,
Being completed
while still being half...
About being
strong while being weak, being complete while being incomplete...
Why are
people getting married? What marriage is actually?
It is about
making life easier for each other.
It is about
sharing the burdens.
It means
having someone in your life who thinks of you more than you think of yourself,
being able to make the other half happy without the need to talk.
It means
finding the peace you seek at the end of the day, walking side by side in the
same direction, sharing sorrows and joys, sharing each other’s needs and trying
to fulfill it together.
It is not
about obstructing each other but smoothing out each other's extremes.
It not
about competing by saying "I can do it better, I'm more tired than you"
But thinking,
"How can I do this better? How can I relieve my other half's
tiredness?"
It is not
about dancing on tabletops like crazy lovers or turning romantic reunions into
dramatic fights...
It is about
lying down a little bit on the right side and living the happiness next to the
other half...
Elif looked
at her parents,
They are
truly like two halves forming a whole.
Both know what needed to be done, and they do it. They both do what the other can’t do and they know that
Her mother
never forgets her father's favorite food, drinking, or dessert.
And her
father always brings her mother her favorite snacks and fruits most evenings.
Her father,
like the Minister of Foreign Affairs, handles the bills, the purchases, and the
heavy things...
Her mother,
like the Minister of internal Affairs, takes care of the washing, cooking and
cleaning.
In the
living room, her mother has created a space where her father can relax. He loves
to rest there, feeling like a king...
When they go
out, her mother is just like a queen. Her father takes care of everything, gives
instructions outside, carries things, and looks after Elif's sibling...
There is a
distribution of roles and duties between them. When everyone fulfills their
duties, there is no problem.
Elif also looked
at her friends' marriages.
Even before
getting married, they were avoiding their own roles and duties, shouting, "You'll also help in
the kitchen, you'll wash your own plate!"
Man wants her
wife to work too, saying, "in these days, one salary isn't enough, aren't
you studying?"
Both were
thinking of themselves, not of each other.
Both were
becoming rivals, complaining, "I'm the one who's more tired!" And
they were expecting understanding...
No one was
thinking of fulfilling each other's needs and making him/her happy...
They
couldn't give up their desires and focus on the other's desires.
Nowadays,
couples are only saying "me, me, me" the whole time…
So, there is
no real union, only a marriage on paper that is empty in real life...
Expectations are high, with too many complaints...
The issue isn’t
signing that paper but fulfilling the responsibilities that come with that
signature.
That's why the
contracts are short-lived... Or, otherwise, years pass without happiness.
In some
couples, one is doing everything and, as a result, being cheated,
underestimated and oppressed. While the other is complaining, do nothing, and
over all being cruel.
The marriage
is valid on paper, but there is no happiness.
If not, both
avoids the price and separates.
Being the
other half of an apple wasn't easy, of course... It has a price...
It requires
a balanced sacrifice...
In the
right place...
It often
requires not to use “I" but, instead, starts using "you"...
Those who can
say "you" can become a whole...
They can
stand side by side in life.
The lyrics
of the song become more meaningful now, when you think about what secrets lay
beneath...
Ah, if only
people think!
Think about the life, what they and other people have experienced!
The words
were passing through Elif's mind once again,
How lovely
and beautiful they are...
Half of
an apple,
half of
it is you. And the other half is me..."
We live together but we are different
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YanıtlaSilBencillikten bağ çıkmıyor ne yazık ki🌿 güzel bir yazı olmuş, elinize emeğinize sağlık🦋
YanıtlaSilTo be two peas in a pod🍏compensation is a must
YanıtlaSilTogether we are stronger. This is the key to a happy marriage. In all ups and downs, there is only 'we', where they - a couple - complete each other by their differences as well as similarities; where their different characters and desires are respected, addressed and fulfilled mutually.
YanıtlaSilPeople already live happily when they accept their differences and begin to become a whole.
SilThanks for this amazing article...
YanıtlaSilHappiness and unhappiness are related to expectation. Thank you, very sincerely written.
YanıtlaSilIt is as difficult as seeing and confronting oneself. Thank you
YanıtlaSilIt means finding the peace you seek at the end of the day, walking side by side in the same direction, sharing sorrows and joys, sharing each other’s needs and trying to fulfill it together... you say true, thanks
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YanıtlaSilIn one word
YanıtlaSilHalf of it is you. And the other half is me...
YanıtlaSilRelationship in marriage is like breathing.
YanıtlaSilI am you 🎈 you are me
SilImportant subject
YanıtlaSilIt is so difficult to achieve this situation. Thank you for this beautiful article at a time when we are failing in relationships.
YanıtlaSilThanks for this topic.
YanıtlaSilThank you
YanıtlaSilAm I you
YanıtlaSilYou will complete what is missing in me, I will complete what is missing in you so that we can be whole❤️
YanıtlaSilWho are you or who am I? That's the question. Thank you.
YanıtlaSilThank you
YanıtlaSilMy parents were just like you describe half of an apple... And we, the children, were very happy... Thank you for the nice article.
YanıtlaSilIt dawned on me that we will encounter the right outcomes if we establish the correct reasons. Thanks a lot...
YanıtlaSilPeople should see marriage as sharing the same thing and looking in the same direction, rather than loving the same thing.
YanıtlaSilLooking in the same direction (same targets) is the key word of this article I guess 🤔
SilHow wonderfully created humans actually are. Men and women have different physical characteristics. Their emotional reactions are also different. One is strong and the other is aesthetic. It is as if the creator cut an apple in half and asked him to look for the other half. but nowadays people are trying to be an apple alone. Everyone seems to be fighting to strengthen each other's side that is not given to them and not to be dependent on the other person. This makes them rivals rather than spouses.
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